No Such Thing As A Bully

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Does your child talk about being treated badly by his peers, and you don’t know what to do? Does the school tell you to make your child stop bullying, and you don’t know how? You’ll find concrete answers inside this book. For years and years we have talked about bullies and victims. We’ve talked about them enough that the words have shaped the lives of many people. It’s time for a whole new framework.

No more will we speak of bullies and victims. No more will we give power to the idea that bullying is inherent in our society, or that “Kids can be cruel”. This new framework throws traditional bullying theory on its head, examining bully actions and victim responses, instead of labelling children. It teaches lessons that help each and every one of us, adult and child, stop ourselves from falling into either category.

Use the information and lessons to learn the information yourself. Use the activities to teach the information to your children. People who communicate well and have developed a strong self-concept, balanced thinking, balanced approaches and empathy for others are less likely to use bully actions or victim responses. It’s simple. All children need the same skills. Children aren’t “bullies” and they don’t need to be “victims”.

They just need to be provided opportunity to learn. All children need the same skills. “It was a pleasure to read your book and see how well you present your valuable ideas and strategies for removing the horrible effects of bullying behavior, victim behavior, and bystander behavior. Your writing is beautiful, clear, passionate, and meaningful. If all parents, children, teachers, and administrators could be exposed to your ideas and methods, we would soon have a safer childhood experience for all our loved ones.” Ralph Kilmann (Thomas Kilmann Conflict Indicator)

 *This book is part of a community wellness system created by Kelly Karius and Dr. Ron Graham, which includes this book for parents, lesson plans and strategies for schools, full community training (Community Immersions) and a website that supports schools, parents and community, an anonymous reporting system through TIPS Awareity and a safety app promoted by aBeanstalk.

For more information about the full system, please see http://nosuchthingasabully.com

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Community Empowerment Series 2014

Our children are our future leaders, we have to empower them.

St. Johns County, Florida is listed as the number one school district in the state of Florida. They are also home to The Community Empowerment Series.

St. Augustine High School, on Saturday March 29th, will be the place to be!

Starting at 9:00am will be National speakers and authors that teachers, parents, students and the entire community will be learning from about topics that are important today.

These topics are:

Bullying, cyberbullying, cyber safety, stranger danger, body image and peer pressure.

This event is FREE to the public!  Online registration is now open!

Stand Tall Against Bullying

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By Dennis Vanasse

Matthew is one of the bravest eight year old boys you will ever meet. Unfortunately, Matthew is bullied at school; he is called names, spit at, and even has his lunch money taken away by a bully named Bobby. Matthew just wants to feel like he fits in and that he belongs somewhere, just like everyone else.

But Matthew is extremely special and courageous because he never physically fights back; he knows what the right thing to do is, and that's telling people he trusts about being bullied. Matthew's story sends a powerful message to readers,"If we all stand together, bullying will end."

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Words Wound: Delete Cyberbullying and Make Kindness Go Viral

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By Justin Patchin and Sameer Hinduja

"Just when you think no one understands, someone does. Words Wounds will open dialogue across the country and the world! Drs. Justin Patchin and Sameer Hinduja share their years of experience and research of the depths of cyberbullying, to give you concrete solutions and tools to navigate today's digital society. Every parent needs to purchase this book for their pre-teen and teen today. Especially in today's society, we need to equip our children with the knowledge and resources they need to combat the underbelly of the cyberspace. Words Wound offers teens helping teens and sound advice and information that other teens will relate to." 

- Sue Scheff, Parent and Cyber-Advocate

Cyberbullying happens every day. Harsh words and damaging photos exchanged through texts, email, or social media can result in humiliation, broken friendships, punishment at school, and even legal prosecution.

In some cases, online harassment has contributed to teen suicide. Faced with this frightening problem, parents, educators, and teens are looking for information and advice. Many books have been written for adults about what cyberbullying is and what to do about it, but nothing has been written specifically for teens to help them to protect themselves and their peers.

Written by the foremost experts in cyberbullying prevention and reviewed by teens, this book provides practical strategies for those who are being cyberbullied, seeing cyberbullying, or who just want to do something to help make their schools a safer and more respectful place. The book includes dozens of real-life stories from those who have experienced cyberbullying, including many who have risen above it to make a positive difference in their schools.

In short, "Words Wound" helps students to be the primary agents of change to "delete cyberbullying and make kindness go viral." Are you ready to join the movement?

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'The Little Dudes' Skool Survival Guide

By H.G. Sansostri

This book is 'The Anti-bullying Guide' that manages to deliver a witty, sarcastic and sensitive read, on how to deal with 'Your Bullies' it is also written by a child.

It's realistic and full of wisdom, considering the authors age (only 11 years-old).

The two book stars 'Billy and Ethan' bring the book to life with their different scenarios of 'Skool' life, that makes you feel you are there with them.

Billy and Ethan are two delicious characters who make you want to meet and know them again and again, they try their very, very best to get their message across on how to deal with 'YOUR BULLIES'.

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Visit http://www.hgsansostri.com/ for more information on this amazing author and his book!

Stop Bullying

Heroes are born every day. Reblog if you’re committed to being someone’s hero when it comes to bullying.

http://stopbullying.tumblr.com/post/64803654310/be-someones-hero

Learn more at www.stopbullying.gov

National Bullying Prevention Month: How Cyber-Gossip Can Lead to Bullying

In today’s internet age, gossip can be spread at lightning speed to hundreds, thousands or millions of people. The new “party line” is cyberspace where millions of people can all access the same information instantaneously. Just get on your computer, iphone, ipad or blackberry and let the rumors fly.

Here are 10 ways people (including kids) can us new technology to rapidly spread gossip in (in no particular order).

1. Email – One way to spread a rumor quickly is to send an email to all the contacts in your account, except the one the rumor is about, of course. Then they can forward it to all their contacts and on it goes from there. You better hope they delete your name when they forward it, or you might get blamed for starting it.
2. Facebook – Post your gossip on facebook and all your friends will know about it instantly. If they “like” it, comment on it or repost it, all their friends will see it too. Pretty soon you’ve got the rumor spreading quickly.
3. Myspace – Another social networking sight great for gossiping is Myspace. Post that rumor on a bulletin or your group’s message board and watch it spread like wildfire.
4. Twitter – You can tweet a rumor and all your Twitter followers will know your juicy gossip in 140 characters or less. They can re-tweet it to all their followers and in no time the gossip is flying through cyberspace.
5. Blogs – Some people love to spread gossip through their blogs. Even unintentional rumors are sometimes started by bloggers.
6. Website – You won’t believe some of the stuff you find posted on websites, and you shouldn’t either. There are whole websites put on the web just for the purpose of spreading misinformation. Always remember to check their sources.
7. YouTube – If you have a registered YouTube account you can upload an unlimited number of videos. If you have a video of someone doing something dubious, this is the best way to spread that rumor to millions of viewers.
8. Comments – A great way to anonymously spread gossip is to post a comment on a website, blog or YouTube video. You can log in under an assumed username and say all kinds of outrageous things without revealing your identity.
9. Chat rooms – Another anonymous way to spread rumors are internet chat rooms. You can start with an offhand comment and embellish it as you go.
10. Texting – If you see or hear something juicy to gossip about, you can send a text message to all your friends. That will get the thumbs flying as the rumor gets spread.

The new social media available has taken gossiping to a whole new level. Unfortunately this can lead to cyber bullying and be very traumatizing to vulnerable people. Celebrities and politicians are easy targets for internet gossip and careers are ruined by unintended tweets. Everyone should use the new technology responsibly, but many abuse their newfound privileges. Be careful what you put out into cyberspace or it may come back to haunt you and always check the sources of what you see or read. Chances are it’s just more cyber-gossip.

Source: Internet Providers
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National Bullying Prevention Month

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The Bully Text: DoSomething.org

The Bully Text’ utilizes SMS to educate young people on how to step up to bullying in their community

DoSomething.org and The Wireless Foundation announce the launch of The Bully Text, a unique mobile experience that allows young people to walk through a day at a virtual high school to explore the ways that they can step up to bullies in common bullying situations. With an estimated 160,000 kids skipping school each day to avoid being bullied[1],  DoSomething.org developed The Bully Text to educate students on how to stop bullying in their schools.

The Bully Text is a text messaging game set during an imaginary first day of school. In the game, participants experience different bullying situations and are given options on how they can react. Depending on how the participant reacts in the different situations, they walk down different paths that each offer unique endings. The SMS education experience is meant to emulate common bullying situations, show different ways to react and offer an example of the impact of their actions. 

For the second year of The Bully Text, DoSomething.org found a natural partner in The Wireless Foundation and their mission: bringing organizations, people, and technology together so wireless innovations will continue to enhances lives in communities across the United States.  Last year over 68,000 young people took part in the campaign, and 89% of participants reported having a better idea of how to stop bullying in their school after playing the game. This year, young people who participate will be entered to win a $3,000 scholarship.

The Bully Text is part of DoSomething.org’s proprietary mobile gaming model – through which they built their mobile subscriber list to over 1.3 young people. With the average teen sending 3,339 texts a month and texts having a 99% open rate; SMS is a powerful tool to effectively engage young people on issues they care about.

“We all remember that moment, that feeling. You see something you don’t quite agree with in school, something you know is wrong. But do you act? It’s hard for young people to know how to deal with those situations first hand” said Greg Thomas, campaign manager at DoSomething.org. “Through The Bully Text, we’re providing young people with a chance to understand what it’s like to experience bullying through different roles, and reflect on how they can change their behavior to help them step up to bullying in their school.”

For full campaign details, visit www.dosomething.org/bullytext or text BULLY to 38383.

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[1] National Association of School Psychologists (http://www.nasponline.org/)

Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher, and Kid Needs to Know About Ending the Cycle of Fear

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By Carrie Goldman

With schools opening across the country, this is a perfect book for parents, teachers and students and is now available in paperback.

The mother of a bullied first grader, popular blogger Carrie Goldman’s inspiring true story triggered an outpouring of support from online communities around the world. In Bullied, she gives us a guide to the crucial lessons and actionable guidance she’s learned about how to stop bullying before it starts. It is a book born from Goldman’s post about the ridicule her daughter suffered for bringing a Star Wars thermos to school—a story that went viral on Facebook and Twitter before exploding everywhere, from CNN.com and Yahoo.com to sites all around the world. Written in Goldman’s warm, engaging style, Bullied is an important and very necessary read for parents, educators, self-professed “Girl Geeks,” or anyone who has ever felt victimized by a bully, online or in person.

Bullied has been recognized with Gold Awards at the 2013 National Parenting Publications Awards and the 2013 Mom's Choice Awards.

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Back to School: Show Your Support to Prevent Bullying This Year at School

It's around the corner!  Schools will be opening.  Parents are already collecting school supplies and getting ready for their child to be back on schedule.

Most know that bullies and cyberbullies never take a break.  While the school yard bullies may have been in the backyard - they will be back at school shortly.

With that let's start school this year with a remind to all our kids that they need to be upstanders! 

Order your STOMP Out Bullying wristbands today and encourage your friends and community to do the same.

Bullying is a choice.  Kindness is also a choice.  Choose to be kind.

STOMP Out Bullying™ focuses on reducing and preventing bullying, cyberbullying, sexting and other digital abuse, educating against homophobia, racism and hatred, decreasing school absenteeism, and deterring violence in schools, online and in communities across the country.

STOMP Out Bullying is a fantastic organization that continues to help thousands of children and families and this is an opportunity be part of their mission in making our world a better place for everyone.

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Baffle That Bully! The Game That Puts YOU in Control & Makes the Bully Lose Interest

By Chase Anichini, Amy Jones Anichini and Jordan Anichini

"Baffle That Bully!" is a way of maintaining your cool while distracting bullies, throwing them off their game, and putting them in a game where you make the rules. The result: bullies decide for themselves to leave you alone, because it's no longer fun to pick on you.

But the book is about more than overcoming bullying. It's also about being the keeper of your own feelings and not letting other people bring you down, no matter how hard they try. It's about believing in yourself.

"Baffle That Bully!" was written by a family to help other families. Co-written by 9-year-old Chase Anichini, who was the target of emotional bullying for 2 years, and her mother Amy Jones Anichini, "Baffle That Bully!" teaches your child how to stay calm when others are trying their best to upset him/her. Chase's story and characters - some bullying targets and some bullies - are brought to life through the beautiful illustrations of her 12-year-old sister Jordan Anichini.

Scarlett introduces 3 steps to playing "Baffle That Bully!" for your child to follow every single time someone is "mean" to him/her. Then she walks your child through several situations ("The Bully Encounters of Scarlett the Baffler") and explains how she applied the 3 steps to remain calm while throwing the bullies off of their well-rehearsed tactics. Scarlett demonstrates how to successfully Baffle YOUR Bully.

When your child learns how to "Baffle That Bully!", he/she will not only distract the bully from their well-rehearsed tactics but will also gain confidence. That self-confidence and sense of self-esteem could help your child handle just about any unpleasant situation.

New Feature: Anyone who has purchased the book can talk to Scarlett via BaffleThatBully.com and ask her questions about handling bullies and/or playing the game! Visit our site to "Ask Scarlett."

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NOBullying.com The Movement Against Bullying

From NOBullying.com About Us:

Nobullying.com is an online forum aimed at educating, advising, counselling and all importantly, helping to stop bullying, in particular, cyber bullying.

Although we at Nobullying.com work closely with and are delighted to gain the insight of many professionals including psychologists, teachers and other experts, we really cherish the input and experiences of parents and children of all ages, on this topic.

Parents, you, your opinions and feedback on points of interest, news and events are so important to Nobullying.com.  You are living the daily struggle, if you have a child who is the victim of cyber bullying.  We don’t make this statement in a flippant way.  Nobullying.com has been established by parents and as such, although we may not have had the exact same experiences as you, we do know where you are coming from.  Like you we worry constantly as to whether our child is the victim of cyber bullying or maybe he/she could be involved in cyber bullying through peer pressure.  Either way, we want to find an answer to an awful problem which has resulted in the death of teenagers and ruined the lives of many more.

Feel free to Contact Us anytime if you want to experience share, or offer up some tips and advice that you found useful.

Children and teenagers, if you have been the victim of cyber bullying please talk to your parents, your teachers or your school psychologist/nurse.  Remember, we all want what’s best for you and truly want to help.  It is not uncommon for kids to bully through peer pressure, especially with cyber bullying. No doubt if you are being bullied, in any way, the bully or bullies have warned you not to tell but guess what, that’s what bullies do.  Talk to your parents, your teachers, or a senior person in your school.  Don’t ever forget you are an amazing young person with a great future ahead of you, so start today and set yourself free from bullying.  There are thousands like you, all anxious about making that first great step, why not inspire them.

We are always looking for people to share their stories – if you want to provide a written article – do contact us via our quick fill in form. Do please note we will need your parents approval first if under 18 years.

Educators, you work with students, parents psychologists, victims, bullies and have good and bad experiences from every angle.  You know the sadness suffered by victims of bullying but you also know the joy and happiness felt, when, in many cases with your help, an awful situation is positively resolved.  Unfortunately, as you know, it can at times, be very difficult to pick up on bullying and even more difficult to truly resolve it.  However, as professionals who see bullying from all sides, please share with us your experiences and knowledge.  We really do want to give you a forum which will allow you help not just those in your school.

If you have some time to share some advice and guidance for others – we would love to take even 15 minutes of your time to answer a few questions by email and we will publish this on the website. Someone maybe looking for an answer you can provide.  Reach us here on our contact us page today.

As a professional psychologist or psychiatrist with knowledge in the area, share with us your experience and we will gladly display your profile and details on our site, which will be visited by thousands of people every week, concerned about their child’s safety, whether or not they are being bullied, whether or not their child actually is a bully and if they should seek counselling for their child.  Your expertise is more than appreciated, for more info click Here.

Please remain connected to our Cyber bullying-proof social media accounts for more information and tips to say no to bullying.

Start a #TakeNoBullies anti-Bullying Club in Your Community

Get your friends and start an anti-bullying club today!

It's summer!  School is out however bullies and cyber bullies don't take a break just because it is summer. 

What a perfect time to encourage your teens to start an anti-bullying support group and begin educating your community about cyber bullying and bullying.

Here are some tips to get you started.

Build your team:  Start recruiting your friends, family, neighbors and even local businesses have been known to contribute in a variety of ways.  For example, SmartSign from New York has created the #TakeNoBullies campaign.  You can check them
out for stickers and pins with great slogans that help spread the message that bullying and cyber bullying will not be tolerated.

Name your club:  Selecting a name for club as a well as a mission statement is important.  You want it to reflect on what your group stands for and how you are making a difference in your community.  Browse around the Internet and review some others for ideas.  Brainstorm and you will be amazed how something will come to you.

Where:  Many local libraries welcome kids and parents to start support groups.  Your local YMCA, Girls and Boys Clubs and local churches will sometimes have areas they can offer you space to have meetings and gatherings for events.

Do your research:  Learn as much as you can about bullying and cyber bullying prevention as well as how to help those that are victims.  There are many excellent websites to gather information from.  Here are a few of my favorites:

• Cyberbullying.us
• STOMPOutBullying.org
• StopBullying.gov

Create a ground swell:  Make some noise!  Contact your local newspaper, TV station and radio stations.  Let your community know your club exists.  Let kids know they have a place to come and learn more about bullying and cyber bullying.  Most importantly, it is a safe place for them to come if they are being bullied.  Again, school is out, and we always encourage kids to tell their parents, but some will go to their teachers first.  Right now they don’t have a teacher.  After they tell their parents, these kids will appreciate your peer support group.  Get the news out there!
Let’s be ready for BLUE Shirt Day:  October 7, 2013 is STOMPOutBullying across America!  Starting in August, STOMP will be getting ready for their annual BLUE sea of shirts across the country.  Let’s be sure your community has a voice in that movement too — it is that important.
These are a few simple steps to get your community involved this summer.  Encourage your kids to be the difference in the lives of others.  Even if they have never been bullied – helping others feels so good.

Let’s pay it forward this summer.

Bullied: What Every Parent, Teacher, and Kid Needs to Know About Ending the Cycle of Fear

By Carrie Goldman

Carrie Goldman became an unexpected voice for the antibullying movement after her blog post about her daughter Katie's bullying experience went viral and an online community of support generated international attention. In Bullied, Goldman brings together the expertise of leading authorities with the candid accounts of families dealing firsthand with peer victimization to present proven strategies and concrete tools for teaching children how to speak up and carry themselves with confidence; call each other out on cruelty; resolve conflict; cope with teasing, taunting, physical abuse, and cyberbullying; and be smart consumers of technology and media. As a mother, she calls on us all—families, schools, communities, retailers, celebrities, and media—to fiercely examine our own stereotypes and embrace our joint responsibility for creating a culture of acceptance and respect.

For parents, educators, and anyone still wrestling with past experiences of victimization and fear, Bullied is an eye-opening, prescriptive, and ultimately uplifting guide to raising diverse, empathetic, tolerant kids in a caring and safe world.

At least 25 percent of kids have been bullied online. One in five teens has been bullied at school. More than half of bullying behaviors will stop in less than ten seconds when another student intervenes.

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